But it's also tough, she adds, because once you're on the dating scene you can feel like a teenager again, in that shaky, unconfident, not-sure-if-he'll-call sort of way.
So how can you make post-divorce dating — whether you're looking for a good time or a good (relationship-minded) man — less daunting?
Whether it's been one year or six since the divorce decree, you may never know with absolute clarity that you're ready for another relationship.A divorcée may also feel that there's something "wrong" with her since her marriage fell apart, says Dr. If that's the case, start training yourself now to recognize self-sabotaging thoughts, and when self-doubts start to pop up, "visualize a giant red stop sign, or a voice yelling, 'Stop! Possibly, the last time you dated there wasn't even an Internet, much less Internet dating.But if you were thinking that searching for companionship online is strictly for losers or perverts, forget it — that's as outmoded as dial-up.Be up-front and respectful, but don't apologize for wanting to date."Most children just want their parent to be happy, and may be less likely to object than you imagine," she says.