Dating someone who has trust issues
Each of you is responsible for bringing one of the ingredients to the table. Becoming trustworthy will require an immense character change on his part, and that’s no small task.On your end, trusting your husband again will require obedience and submission to God, in spite of your scars. To rebuild trust, the husband must act decisively to become trustworthy again.I wrote THIS article on this site a while back to explain how someone’s feeling for their ex can affect their current relationship EVEN if they no longer want to be with that person anymore.Ladies, a man with severe trust issues has NOT let go of his past and there’s not a DAMN thing you can do to help him.
In our modern western society, there are three types of grown-ass adults you will run into on the dating scene: 1) The Trusting [unfortunately a very small percentage], (2) The Realist [a weird combination of pessimism and optimism] and (3) The insecure, distrusting Lunatic.
Betrayal’s damage demands gentle care, and you owe her that much simply out of restitution, if nothing else. Megan describes her experience: “My husband and I are four months into recovery, and my husband’s renewed walk with God is so exciting to me.
However, I’m still struggling to believe that I am safe, and that I won’t be hurt by his betrayal again. ” These agonizing questions reveal why a wounded wife needs your patience so desperately.
No matter how desperately you want it, you can’t manufacture trust on your own.
Trust requires two ingredients: Your husband must become trustworthy, and you must trust again.